You know, guys ask me about " finding a woman " and "how to flirt with women " and other such topics frequently .
But honestly the best answer for all of these kind of questions is "experience."
But by now you are saying "but how do I get experience when I don't know where to go or how to approach women?"
You meet women, approach women, and observe women any way you can for as long as it takes to get comfortable with the topic. Then when you are comfortable you date women, date women, date women. It is called serial dating.
And when I wrote my first book, "How I Got 700 Dates In One Year", some people thought I was nuts.
First of all, let me explain that I am very big on monogamy and have never cheated on a wife or girlfriend, but when I am between relationships I am equally big on multiple or serial dating.
Now I would be the first one to concur that a person who "multiple"¯ or "serial"¯ dates with no goal of ever doing anything else would have at least some major "relating"¯ issues.
But, serial dating applied in the right context is not only not dysfunctional, but it is quite the opposite. Serial dating done to get a better awareness of the opposite sex, so you can figure out who you are partial to, and what you like, and what kinds of folk like you, is about the most mentally healthy thing you can do.
What do you think most parents told their teen sons and daughters?
They said: "Don't get really serious with one person, you need to date and meet a lot of girls/guys."¯
It may seem childish, but this teenage advice is what most adults who are dating need to remember.
First of all, most adults never followed their parent's suggestion and dated lots of people. Most people seem to have a pattern of hooking up with the first acceptable¯ person who shows them some real interest.
Unfortunately, there is a big difference between "acceptable¯" and "ideal"¯ and also regrettably most people normally continue this habit of hooking up with the first "acceptable"¯ person who comes along well into adulthood.
We call this "compromising"¯ or "settling"¯ and in the last analysis it leads to unhappiness in relationships, and a failure to fully grasp the opposite sex.
You see there are many different types of people in the world and, believe it or not, there is someone for everyone. But the problem is you may have to meet a heck of a lot of people to find that one someone.
Another problem is that many people are so confused about life and relationships and people, they don't really have any idea of what kind of personality is a good match for them. They base their ideals off of the Hollywood imagery of what they think they want.
The cure is elementary. When you date and meet lots of people, sooner or later, you figure it out for yourself. It's a natural process. You get comfortable with people, you realize that everyone is different, and that different types of people like different types of people. Eventually you figure out what kind of person you are and what kind of people you get along with best.
And believe it or not, that is all us "dating gurus" have ever done to meet women and attract women . We have just gone out and got a lot of experience.
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